Christian dating is weird
That's why you'll need some objective, outside help from the aforementioned stable married guy, a counselor, or better yet, from a few women who care about you enough to tell you the truth.
As it turns out, even though my wife was, in fact, taken aback by my bluntness, she also liked it very much.Say something — anything to let her know you're not just looking for another friendship (and not over text, email or Facebook — do I really have to say that? And when the two of you start spending more time together, and she makes it clear the feeling is mutual, don't stop there.It's going to take some work to win a woman over — huge investments of time, money and humility.I'm not saying you can't make a move until you've figured out you want to marry her.I'm just saying you need to evaluate what you know about her and decide whether there's something about her that intrigues you. But if there is, don't just sit on your hands and hope she figures it out.I'm not saying that you've got to be fully mature to pursue a woman, or no man would ever get married.
What I'm saying is, if you've got a drinking problem, major credit card debt, serious daddy/mommy issues, a porn addiction — if you've dropped out of college multiple times and you can't keep a job, please don't invite a woman into that mess.
Then there was the excessive verbal processing of every little step in the relationship — so weird.
And there were the countless dates that I managed to ruin by rambling on like I was talking to my therapist.
A few weeks into dating my wife, we were talking on the phone when she mentioned that she had enjoyed "hanging out" with me.
I wasn't sure what she meant by that, but I was afraid that she might have misunderstood my intentions — I mean, when I'm "hanging out" with friends, I don't pay for their meal, wear my Friday night best, or gently touch their back while crossing the street.
It was embarrassingly weird, and it was all done to create an artificial sense of closeness and thereby force the outcome of marriage. On the other hand, some of the guys I knew had the opposite problem.