Dating bitterness anger
Feeling bitter wasn’t the best use of my energy; it led to a lot of middle-of-the-night self-flagellation that wasn’t nearly as constructive as, say, talking things over in therapy or testing the online dating waters.
I felt bitter that I had to move back in with my parents at 27.I also reframed having to begin again from square one as an adventure, not a burden. Jessica, of course, and I went back into therapy post-breakup to deal with those issues. We have to make an effort to put ourselves out there in a bunch of different ways.It took about a year or two to stop feeling hurt and anger about the Big, Terrible Breakup and now I’m in the place where everyone said I would eventually be: unaffected by it. Your job in life (should you so choose) is to find one or more of those people and stay with them as long as you want to. This can mean doing the personal work in therapy to get to a place where we’re ready to give and receive love.I don’t generally make blanket statements like “guys like this! ” but I feel confident saying that no one likes other people who are angry and sour all of the time.But I still understand overwhelming feelings of resentment and anger.But while jealousy comes from coveting something someone else has, bitterness is feeling like you something that you don’t have.
Often, bitter people are angry that other people have it.
We seized the opportunity to be together, although it meant a very untraditional courtship and marriage path.
Both of us feel like it has been the best risk we have ever taken.
It’s part of the healing process, whatever it is you’re healing from.
The truth is, though, that bitterness is really something to get out of as soon as you can.
Weeks, if not months, go by without me even thinking of Ex-Mr. One reason I was able to shake off the walking wounded act was because I’ve never believed any bullshit about “soul mates.” There is only one person out there who is meant to be with each of us. It can mean socializing so you can meet single people.