Dating customs in africa
It’s not always about finding love so much as it is about finding a potential marriage partner who fits with one’s own ideals.For example, although many men get married without a house and a car, Chinese women will often say that they’re looking for these things because that’s the sort of person who probably has a stable career and will be able to provide for her and their future children in the long-term. As one contestant on China’s most popular dating show put it, "I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle." Every parent is different, of course, but in general Chinese parents expect to be more involved in their children’s relationships.
Chinese young people often feel like they don’t have the time to “play the field” that their Western counterparts are afforded by society.This pressure is particularly acute for women, who can be called “left-over women” if they pass the age of 26 or 27 without finding a husband.Men can find themselves similarly left-over if they wait too long to get married.It’s not uncommon for parents and grandparents to set their children up on blind dates with suitable matches they’ve found.If their child’s significant other doesn’t meet with the parents’ approval, continuing the relationship will be very difficult.However, these traditions are not as strong as they used to be and as African women become aware of how women in other parts of the world live, they have begun to expect more from thier relationships.
For instance, in Nigeria, women, especially educated women, are increasingly rebelling against the system of village elders demanding a bride-price, as they consider that this makes women into a commodity.
The Ghana dating scene is not too different from that in Nigeria.
About 50 percent of Ghanaian young women live in cities and, as in Nigeria, the traditional family controls over courtship and marriage are less powerful.
Many Chinese couples do not share the Western expectation that two people dating will maintain their own separate social lives and friend circles.
Chinese couples also sometimes refer to each other as “husband” (老公) and “wife” (老婆) even when they’re not actually married—another indicator of the serious implications dating in China.
The ultimate goal of most relationships in China is marriage.