Dating guide for man
Opinions on a date are more like your lesbian best friend: We know she's important to you and we're glad you have her, but we have no idea why you'd want to introduce us to her on a first meeting and turn the evening into a serious downer.Twelve: If you do opt to discuss current events, avoid anything so controversial it will destroy potential chemistry, like Crimea, Obama's job performance, or the relevance of HBO's "Looking." Thirteen: Fashions change, so know the basics: No flip-flops, no shaving, and, even if it is after Memorial Day, absolutely no white underwear.
Chill out, and use the time to call your sponsor for encouragement.Fourteen: If you like the guy and want things to go well, put everything out on the table: HIV status, views on monogamy, and, for Florida residents, guns.Fifteen: It's a sign of a true gentleman if you walk him to his door and he says it's too soon for you to come inside.However, if you don't have an immediate answer for "Do you want to get married? " the date has just ended; don't even bother to take your coat off.Eleven: Contrary to popular belief, opinions are not like assholes, because in today's gay world, assholes are glorious and sexy and displayed prominently in photos sent to you from potential suitors.Eight: In the old days, it was common, and common sense, to say that, if you sleep with someone, you are also sleeping with everyone he's slept with.
Nowadays, it's common sense to remember that, if you sleep with someone who's in a 12-Step program, you are also sleeping with everyone in his Home Group.
Play the Field"It's important to be in more than one community," Davis says.
"It's like being in more than one social circle." She suggests joining one mainstream site (say, e Harmony or Match.com) as well as one niche service, such as Cupidtino, which brings Apple-product obsessives together, or the unapologetically elitist Sparkology (the site's men—but not its women! "Changing sites from time to time, and then revisiting, is the best strategy," says Davis. Ace Your Profile"Your user name is going to inspire them to click," says Davis, who suggests a terminology mash-up (e.g., Sporty Smile).
"Yet here I was, husband hunting and armed with only a handful of half-assed bullet points."Online dating is now the third most common way couples meet, with 30 to 40 percent of singletons logging in to some 1,500 services.
In the marvelously titled (Current), writer Dan Slater tracks a phenomenon that started in 1965 with "computer dating"—essentially a digital compatibility test, dreamed up by two lovelorn Harvard undergrads desperate to meet Radcliffe girls—and mushroomed into an estimated $2 billion a year industry.
Two: You're "Checking In" at the restaurant where you've made dinner reservations? Nothing like telling 5,000 Facebook friends the location of your intimate rendezvous.