Online dating argument
But to reiterate we don’t know since all this is secret.And that’s not science.” In other words, e Harmony works because their members are yuppies, not because they’ve found the secret formula to matchmaking It’s All A Numbers Game The lesson from my experience is that dating is entirely a numbers game, and the search method is largely irrelevant.
“Aligning on religion, finances and family” doesn’t qualify as a list.Others just want out, so they’re willing to settle for someone who seems good enough at that moment in time.But this phenomenon is only applicable for those people who aren’t really looking for long-term love.It’s a funny assumption, because even the bleeding edge of social science, which arguably has access to a lot more accurate data than e Harmony, is really quite bad at predicting human behavior.The normally poor state of social forecasting is compounded by the fact that individuals, in general, are terrible at knowing what they want in a significant other.As the researchers pointed out, humans really aren’t great at knowing how to predict who they’ll fall (and stay) in love with.
Online dating, professional matchmaking, hitting on girls at parties — statistically speaking, they’re all hit or miss in the blind search for that special someone.
To test out whether any kind of matching service could compare to my usual method of asking girls for a drink at a party, I hooked up with the professional matchmakers at San Francisco’s It’s Just Lunch.
For somewhere north of $1,500, they hand-select from among their well-paying members for a hot date at one of the city’s chic restaurants (IJL gave me a media pass to try out the service).
Perhaps the greatest treatise why matching people on similarity doesn’t necessarily work out was put forth by the great 1980’s social philosopher, Paula Abdul, in her critically acclaimed “Opposites Attract” Online Dating Does Not Lead To Better Outcomes My experiment through the online dating minefield began as a fight with e Harmony’s data scientist, over a blog post claiming that e Harmony marriages had a lower divorce rate than other common ways of finding a lifemate.
According to e Harmony, matches had the lowest divorce rate compared to couples who met in school, through family, at church, through or at bar.
I was really hoping this article would have ended differently.